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Welcome to The Mommy Cave! A place where you can read about my crazy adventures and random ramblings from being a mommy to kicking ass in video games! I will warn you, there will be curse words used as I do curse like a sailor. As well as adult posts  (I will hide those from little peeking eyes, password will be needed! 😉 ) If any of this offends you, you may click on the little x in the top right corner 😊

Have a great day or night!

Aimee

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I Suck At This

So apparently, I suck at keeping up with posts 😂 I can’t believe it’s already been 2 months since I last wrote. And the last post was really depressing, sorry about that! I was in a really dark spot. I’m doing so much better though. For now.

So much has happened in the 2 months. Little Jay turned the big ONE on May 5th. I still can’t believe he’s already a year old. It went by way too fast. Before I know it, he’ll be in school 😦 I don’t know how I will handle that! It makes me sadder just thinking about it.

Another reason I haven’t been writing is I putting alot of time into World of Warcraft and other games. I’m currently taking a hiatus from it because I got burnt out and there’s more important things to deal with. Also, I’ve been putting more time into Heroes of the Storm and Stardew Valley after Jay goes to bed. They’re easier to keep ontop of and I don’t feel like I’m far behind compared to World of Warcraft. I just can’t keep up with it anymore as much as I do enjoy playing.

But I don’t know if anyone noticed, but I did remodel the site a little bit. I made a twitter banner last night and decided it would look good on here too. I’m also going to try to work on getting some more pages going. So keep an eye out for that!

Aimee

I Feel Sick

Emotionally.

Physically.

I’m trying to not let myself succumb to the darkness, but it’s so hard. I can’t eat. I can’t sleep. The only thing that helps me get through the day, is Jay. Although lately he’s been having separation anxiety and teething really bad so I’ve been on edge. I fear he can feel what I’m going through and he doesn’t know what to do. I feel like I’m failing him. I’m his mother and he needs me. But what do you do when your friends have turned their backs or tell me “it’ll be okay.” Will it? Will it be okay when you have lost 3 close friendships this month alone due to being accused of doing things you either can’t control or don’t even remember doing? Or how about people who don’t even know you, attacking you for just feeling. Having a shitty birthday and all you do is lay in bed all day feeling sorry for yourself. Will it still be okay? I’m not seeing a light at the end of this tunnel. But I also won’t give up…

Aimee

Brushing the Dust Off

Well, hello everyone. Long time no talk to  (as if people actually read this. But if you do, hello!)

Sorry it’s been quite a while since I’ve written. So much crap has happened that I don’t even know where to begin. I’ve been in such a depressive state that it’s actually taking a toll on myself and those around me. I’ve lost 3 friendships this week alone and I don’t feel great about it. But what’s done is done I suppose. Not really sure I want to talk about it.

Although lately it seems people have been showing their true colors left and right. And of course, I’m the one to be blamed because I don’t realize I’ve done something until it’s too late. Or I’m made to feel like shit because I have depression, anxiety, PTSD, and whatever else I can throw into the mix. I hate to call myself a victim though because of how much I’ve gone through in just the last 10 years alone. And when I mean alone, I was truly alone in dealing with everything. So I guess I got used to that and can never reach out to people. Like I literally feel like I’m in a crowded room screaming and no one looks up. Sadly the only person I can trust in this world is my son and he can’t even talk yet. It also has made me scared to become friends with people because I’m always screwed over in the end or I fuck it up without realizing it until it’s too late. But in truth, if I didn’t have Jay I would probably be in a worse state of mind and just close myself off from the world. I have his goofy self and smiles to help me through the day and he depends on me to be strong. So I’m going to be strong for him

Aimee

I’m still alive, kind of.

So I know I haven’t written in about a month. I swear I didn’t think it has been that long. I feel like the last post I wrote was like a week ago. Sorry about that, this month has been crazy. 

The last time I wrote, it was about Jay being sick. Well later that night he had a fever of 102 so I call my friend to take us to the hospital. He ended up with RSV. Luckily, it wasn’t as serious as it can be. I caught it as he was getting it (super mom powers activate!) But he was still so miserable and I wanted nothing more than to take it from him. He felt better after a week or so. Didn’t need a breathing treatment or anything so I consider ourselves very lucky. 

Another reason I haven’t wrote is because I felt like I didn’t have anything to say. I’ve been in such a foul mood, everytime I came on here to write I would just stare at a blank screen. Finally I would just say fuck it and do something else telling myself I’ll just write the next day. Well here I am weeks later finally having something to say I guess. I’ve also been a real hermit not wanting to go out to do anything. All I want to do is be home with my son and play video games. Which I have been doing and having fun doing it with great friends. Something that I’ve been doing also is trying to turn us into a Twitch group and stream our funny nights in WoW or whatever we’re playing at the time. I have a group Twitch made but we still have some work to do. I’m really hoping it works out because I think it would be really awesome. It’s always been a dream of mine to get paid doing the things I love doing and since I’m not getting paid to be a mom, what the hell? When it’s officially up and running, I’ll link it. But for now it is a work in progress :). Also, I’ve been looking around to getting a domain for this blog. As much as I love WordPress, I want something bigger. I would love to make this blog into possibly a part time job where I can bring a little money in. Sure it’s going to take some time but a little motivation and smacking myself upside the head to not be lazy is worth it. I did it after highschool for years and loved it. I was also big into computer graphics and I can’t even remember the last time I used Adobe Photoshop. Since I got a printer and scanner combo for christmas (thanks mom!) I might as well use it for something. I realize I’m turning 30 in a couple months and I really need to just start doing something with my life. I guess it’s never too late to start. I want my son to be proud of me and to know he can do anything he wants if he puts his mind to it. While it’s scary to think I’ve wasted my 20s, I want to make my 30s so much better. For myself and for little Jay. Because he deserves that. I deserve that too. So here’s to looking at 2017 with hope that I can achieve what I want to do with my life. 

Aimee

 

Hello 2017

So it’s about an hour into the new year and I’m still awake. Why you ask? No I haven’t been drinking, I’m not out with friends, I’m stuck at home. Jay has been sick for the last couple of days with I’m hoping is just a cold and just woke up with a bad cough and clogged up nose. I really hate seeing my baby like this. And to make matters worse, I believe he may be allergic to Pedialyte. Yup. Pedialyte. I got him some last night due to having diarrhea and I didn’t want him getting dehydrated. I know I get thirsty when I’m sick. I poured some in a bottle and let him drink from it. After he was done, I noticed he had a small rash on his chin. I figured maybe he scraped it against a blanket. Tonight while he was eating his dinner, I decided to give him Pedialyte again. Within minutes a rash was in the shape of the bottle imprinted onto his little face! I took it from him immediately and he cried wanting it back. I poured it out and gave him formula instead. He didn’t have any other symptoms except his face so I have no idea. I’m not giving him anymore though, that’s for sure.

ZI really hate sharing that picture but as you can see the ring around his mouth is what happened within minutes. His eyes were already like that and it just makes me so sad. I wish he would feel better soon. Not to mention, I’m exhausted. I didn’t sleep well last night due to him waking up every couple hours due to coughing, not being able to breathe, etc. He was just plain miserable which is to be expected of course. Tonight he seems to be better since he fell back to sleep but I keep hearing him cough every now and then worried he’s getting worse. I can’t wait for Monday to come so I can make him an appointment. I know he can goto the hospital but he’s not that bad. Yet. All day he was playing with his toys and smiling. That’s definitely more than what he was doing the day before so there’s hope it’s just a cold and he’ll get over it soon. But what a shitty way to start the new year’s 😦

Hope yall have a better start than me.

Aimee

Done with the Holidays

Am I the only one happy that the holidays are over? I mean what a stressful weekend week MONTH it has been!

Jay’s first Christmas I guess I can say was a success. We were able to go shopping the day before Christmas Eve (Christmas Eve, Eve?) We went to his mom’s house to spend time with her since Chris had to work on Christmas. Jay got a whole bunch of new clothes and a teething blanket. He wasn’t really liking the teething blanket but I’m hoping he warms up to it so he has something to chew on (as if he doesn’t have enough…) and he ended up staying with her while we went shopping.

What we got was

  • A walker shaped like a monster
  • A Mickey Mouse toddler blanket
  • A 360 cup
  • The Land Before Time dvd
  • A stuffed elephant
  • A Vtech Laptop
  • Three sensory balls
  • A vibrating bug toy
  • Pacifiers (but they have magically disappeared…)
  • A Mickey Mouse solar thing
  • Mickey Mouse pajamas

Can you tell the baby like Mickey Mouse? 😂

Christmas Eve we didn’t do much. Chris had to work that day too so it was just me and the baby. My friend Alex came into town and he came over to spend some time with us. We watched Suicide Squad (Jay fell asleep during) and we just talked. On Christmas, Jay woke us up about 9am. I woke Chris up so he could watch him open gifts. He was more excited over the Mickey Mouse blanket than anything. But he did love being in his walker and played on his laptop. I put the Mickey Mouse solar thing in his window so it wouldn’t get broken and he could watch it move. Later I went with Alex to his Aunt’s house where we ate yummy food and Jay played with his favorite uncle. He was a really good baby. He ate most of the food on my plate! His aunt got me a picture frame with one of my favorite pictures of Jay and a bottle of wine! (You bet I drank it that night too! ;)) Then we went to our friend’s Bee and Zeike’s house to celebrate Christmas with them as well. We surprised Zeike (he didn’t know Alex was coming) and opened Jay’s gifts. He got…

  • Books
  • Mickey Mouse bathtub toy
  • Winter hat and gloves
  • A huge Mickey Mouse plush
  • A rainbow penguin plush
  • A handmade blanket

He was so thrilled when he saw Mickey Mouse though. That thing is bigger than him! I’ll take a picture with him next to it. He loves it! I got some gifts as well. I got a canvas I can color on and bath/foot stuff. I wasn’t expecting anything but they surprised me! It was a good weekend after all though. I got to spend it with the people I care about the most. But I am so damn glad its over and I can stress less now that Christmas is over. I do feel very blessed to have the people in my life that love and care about my son and I. They sure did make us feel special 😀

 

 

 

Is Time in Fast Forward?

Seriously, whoever sat on the remote and pushed fast forward, fix that please! I feel like this whole month vanished and I only have a couple more days left until Christmas. I’m one of those bad parents that haven’t got their baby anything and waited last minute to get his presents. Not really, we had to wait for Chris to be paid. But God, I am dreading tomorrow. I really don’t want to be at Walmart with thousands of people doing the exact thing I am. But it’s either that or stay with his mom while he goes by himself. I’d rather fight the crowds and possibly get hit by a cart than staying with her by myself. But that’s another blog post. Maybe I’ll even put it in the about me section?…

But I am also excited to be celebrating Jay’s first Christmas. His presents (if everything goes according to plan) is as follows.

  • Baby walker – he’s crawling so I figured this would be a nice big Christmas gift.
  • Christmas Eve gift: a pair of christmas jammies, movie or a book and a teething toy. I would give him a snack but… he’s 7 months with no teeth. The most I could do is applesauce or something.
  • Stocking stuffers like teething toys, pacifiers, meshed teethers, etc.
  • A playmat for his room.
  • Something Mickey related.
  • Clothes

I know there’s not toys listed. The only reason is because he’s already had a Christmas in Virginia when we visited my mom and got enough toys to cover his whole room. Not to mention, until we get a dresser or a toy box, we just don’t have the room for toys. Teething toys are much smaller and easier to organize. Plus I’m pretty sure he has every Vtech toy known to man (not really but he does have alot of Vtech toys. He’s not spoiled at all.)

But I do want him to have a great Christmas even if he doesn’t remember it. I will. The only thing I regret is not being able to get his pictures professionally done. I did get some pictures while we were playing in his room earlier and I think they’re pretty good. I’m actually using one as a Christmas card. I can’t post it because there’s people who read this that are getting one… but here are the others. (Yes, I did edit some of them).

Not bad for a phone huh? There’s more but these are my favorite. Plus the others are either blurry, unedited or ones I just don’t want to show. But I am happy I got some type of Christmas pictures. I’m definitely getting his one year pictures done though!

Anyways, I really should be asleep so I can rest up before a long day tomorrow. If I don’t write before then, I want to wish everyone Merry Christmas!

Aimee